Tuesday, February 21, 2006

Spring Fling

I don't know that I'm up for a "spring fling!" I'm pretty sure I'm not up for Spring Break - not that it's gonna be like "Spring Break Miami" or anything around here.... as it was not-so-politely pointed out to me last night, I make my teenage daughters "live in a bubble" and "don't let them do anything." Oh yeah, I'm a mean mom.

It's a hard balancing act with teenagers, one minute they "don't think it's safe to walk to and home from school" (in a town of 13,000), and the next minute one of them is complaining that they live in a "bubble" and why can't they walk around downtown (one street, half a block) after dark with their friends.

Do you know my poor kids are the ONLY ONES who: don't have their own car, a phone with a "plan with unlimited minutes"(we use prepaid phones for the kids), or unrestricted access to the internet in their rooms. Yeah right.... Poor babies....

Of course, on the other end of the balancing act, these are the conversations I heard last night between the 17 and 18 year old daughters (well, they will be next month)-
In the back seat of the car:
D1: I can't believe you just stuck your finger in my eye! On purpose!
D2: Yeah, I licked it first
D1: Ewww, how gross! Why did you do that?
D2: I can't believe you didn't see my finger sneaking up on you.

D2: Mom, she just threw a crayon at my eye! It hurts like "no other!"
D1: laughs
D2: and it was a "chuck" - not a lob, or a toss, she totally chucked it at my eye!
D1: I wasn't aiming for your eye, just your face.
D2: And it was a yellow one! The yellow ones are hard.

HUH???? the yellow ones are harder - I didn't know that, did you?

Yep - you heard me right, they're not 3 and 4, they're almost 17 and 18 - and want unlimited internet access and their own cars - these eye stabbers and crayon chuckers.... yeah- I'll get right on that!

Man - Ok, got that off my chest.... sorry.... just trying to work myself up for "Spring break" where they'll be bored out of their little bubble and REALLY driving my crazy.

My Spring Fling knitting, on the other hand - giving me no problems at all.....I'm loving it.


At 8:36 AM, Anonymous Kristina said...

Your Spring Fling looks great! The cotton fleece is a great and economical choice. You've inspired me to make one of my own (except, I think I'd make mine a little longer than the pattern stipulates).

The girls will thank you later in life for "living in a bubble."

At 8:53 AM, Blogger Chris said...

Spring Flying is springing and flying along, isn't it? Thanks for the giggle at your kids' expense!

At 9:33 AM, Blogger Sonya said...

Oh, Lynda, those poor girls! No unlimited cell phone minutes? What the heck kind of mom are you?!? Tell them I had to do chores to earn a quarter to use in the pay phone to call home to get a ride. *heehee* Then you'll have to explain the whole pay phone concept.

Your Spring Fling is flying right along! Looks lovely.

At 9:34 AM, Anonymous jillian said...

In a blink of an eye they'll be having their own teenagers, and they'll thank you for the great job you did!!

In the meantime, knitting is the perfect analgesic!

At 11:01 AM, Blogger amylovie said...

Oh man! I'm I in trouble in 11 years. Two 16 year olds....oy!


At 11:17 AM, Blogger LC in Sunny So Cal said...

Can you believe my 11 yo dd gives me the same gripe about a phone and the internet? Excuse me. I never leave you outside the eyesight of a responsible adult, why on EARTH would you need a phone?? And the internet?..yeah. I've surfed, and seen things that stunted MY growth. No way, baby.

Stand strong Mom. Soon they'll be on their way to college and in the dorms and we all know what happens then! Bawhawhawhaw!!

At 11:18 AM, Anonymous Jeanie said...

Spring Fling looks beautiful!

Spring break is just around the corner for us too... unfortunately, mine will be with their dad where they get NO parenting and come back 20 times worse than when they left. I always need to send them to "boot camp" after they get back from time at their dad's. Sheesh.

And I can totally relate to the whole "but so-and-so gets this" and "so-and-so gets to do that" business. Infuriating. Right now, Football Star Son is hitting me up for a tattoo -- at 17! Feel better yet???

At 11:31 AM, Blogger Katie said...

That is hilarious, the conversation in the car! Sometimes I miss being a teenager! As a word of encouragement, I plan to be the same with my kids, as far as the internet and car and phones and what have you. There is a time and a place for them to gain access to all of that, and high school isn't it. Just like another commenter said, they'll thank you one day!

At 11:34 AM, Blogger candsmom said...

For a minute there, I thought you were recounting a Bossy and Stinky conversation!! ;-) And I'm already groaning, thinking about when they become teenagers and start bugging me about cell phones and unlimited minutes and who knows what else. I'll have to give them my whole "Back in my day..." story about walking 5 miles uphill, both ways, with NO pager (even though everyone else had one!) and an Atari 400 computer!! That'll put them in their place. ;-) You're such a mean mom, Lynda! ;-) Your Spring Fling looks wonderful!! Your stitch definition looks fantastic in that Cotton Fleece and you've made awesome progress already! Take care! :-)

At 12:08 PM, Blogger Areli said...

Your daughters are hilarious, I almost choked on my cookie.

Spring fling is looking great, I really like the color you chose.

At 12:43 PM, Blogger Jennifer said...

Kids... *sigh*

At 1:32 PM, Anonymous Arleta said...

OOh!Pretty knitting. Your daughters sound just like my almost 16 and almost 13 yo sons! The no phone/ tv/ internet in the bedrooms is so no fair. I didn't know girls are eye poking crayon chuckers, either. Oh I can't wait for my 7 yo to be a teen girl. Just Kidding.

At 1:41 PM, Blogger Carrie K said...

Your Spring Fling is looking good!

(those marshmallows a post below do too! Yum!)

Oh, your poor abused teenagers. Like teenagers everywhere. My best friend's 17 year old is sulking because she got a laptop before he did. Which I cannot figure out, but then, I'm not the mom of any teenagers. (Thank God, lol)

At 2:13 PM, Blogger Jen said...

Thanks for the giggle on your 17 YO-going-on-3 story. I'm betting Kaity is cursing you on her blog right now while sitting in the family room.

Too tough being a parent these days.

At 2:56 PM, Blogger Mom (a.k.a. Mary Ann) said...

I love my daughter more than life itself, but she would be the first to admit that there were some rocky times during those teen years. Her comment (see above) mentions the age 16. As I recall it started way before that. Anyway, my mother alway reminded me that Proverbs tells us "Train up a child in the way he (or she) should go, and when he (or she)is
OLD, he(or she)will not depart from it." It says nothing about teenagers.

Your Spring Fling is lovely.

At 3:13 PM, Blogger Kaity said...

Hey I'm not the one who complains ALL THE TIME, just sayin. I am the crayon chucker, though.

At 4:28 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I keep telling people, hey my kids never got any freedom or time to experiment on their own or weren't allowed out after dark or didn't "do what all thge others kids are doing"....how will they get through life. I'm here to tell you they all three grew up to be people we like, and their kids are people we like, too.

At 4:34 PM, Anonymous your mom said...

Sorry, that last comment was from your proud, (but mean) ol' mom. Love you.

At 5:52 PM, Blogger LC in Sunny So Cal said...

Heh, heh, heh....Oh, Mrs. Lynda's Mommy....we managed to get out a FEW times!

But nothing I'm willing to admit in front of MY mom!!!

Love ya', Mrs. M!!

At 6:54 PM, Blogger Cherice said...

Your Spring Fling looks great. Ah for Spring Break my 15 year old son is getting his wisdom teeth removed. Teenagers are a trip. Sorry to break this to your girls, but my son also thinks that he's the only one without a cel phone, not allowed out after dark (exept for special occaisions), can't drive so no car, no internet or tv in his room. We also don't have cable tv...we're mean mean mean!!

I loved the crayon conversation, they never really do grow up do they?!

Thank you for the well wishes. My youngest son has been very worried and sat by the bed this morning and sobbed. He's much better this evening and I keep telling him that soon I'll be fine again, better than before!! Sweet kid!

At 5:03 AM, Anonymous heather said...

ooo, diggin' the Spring Fling. I could go for one of those right now, ANY kind of fling actually!

Good luck with those girls of yours! I'm dreading the teen years, scary stuff there. I have a hard time believing you are a mean mom. Maybe YOU need to start throwing crayons, or better yet--how bout dpn's? ;)

At 9:37 AM, Anonymous Latoya said...

Ah, being a teenager. Let them know that my first date was the prom and that I didn't understand the freedom of walking to the store by myself until my junior year of high school. Also, my diary was read by mom on a continuous basis, and I could not sleep over and no one could sleep over at my house. Now, add that I was the baby which meant I was by my lonesome (my brother is 10 years older than me). So, I go in to trouble on the sly and was REALLY in to books. They provided a place away from where I was at the present time. We also had a black & white t.v. until I started 8th grade. Did I leave anything out? Oh, I didn't discover these "freedoms" 'til I was away at college and had my own job and living arrangements. I hope that this makes them reevaluate things. I'm now 29, so its not as if it was that loooong ago.

You're doing good, mommy. Now, go and knit.


At 9:47 AM, Blogger keohinani said...

i thought the marshmallows you made were tofu...hehehe...good thing i kept reading!
i was always the wrath-of-dad-fearing-good-girl type. it was less stressful for them, and it made me more accountable for my actions. costs less, too, in the long run - emotionally, mentally, etc.
of course, when i went to college, it was a different story...hehe. what happens at college...*smirk*
the best you can do is instill self control, discipline, responsibility, and honesty. i think lack of their own car, unlimited minutes, and access to the internet is the best. we got along without it, and every luxury has its price. as long as they live under your roof, they live by your rules ;)
loving the spring fling! i must get me some cotton fleece one of these days...woot woot!

At 5:54 AM, Anonymous Maggie said...

Spring Fling is looking very beautiful Lynda!! Is it for you?

You sound very much like I was with my son and daughter. They are both grown now and living on their own. I was a single working Mom and they didn't even have a computer. We couldn't afford anything like that. I too, was very strict, but then I had no one to help me with all the decisions so I always opted for "NO!".

At 9:45 PM, Anonymous Cynthia said...

Your coverage of the conversations between your daughters had me laughing until there were tears running down my face!


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